Is nasty necessary?

I've noticed some nasty. Sometimes when people try to make a point with someone they disagree with, instead of using reasonable arguments they just resort to nasty. There is passion. Polarity. Almost like enemies in different camps who could not believe for a minute that "the others" may also have a point. Before you read on, please consider that there are in fact two sides to every story.

Now my following is an example only, but there are two places in particular where I've noticed nasty quite a bit and I'm sure you have an opinion. I don't want to argue right or wrong, but just point out some considerations.

The V Word...

I know people in both camps and many in the middle. Everywhere from "If we're not all vaccinated we're all going to die" to "I really don't like anything artificial in my body" and everywhere in between. This is not a post about whether you should or you shouldn't vaccinate. That's not for me to say. But there are many, many issues worthy of consideration.

A few years ago I caught a serious disease (which I had been vaccinated against as a child). The doctor believes I caught this disease from a vaccinated person (a family member) who perhaps had little immunity left, or perhaps their vaccination had not resulted in any immunity in their system. It made me think a lot about this issue.

One thing I ask. Instead of viewing "the others" as the enemy as slinging nasty comments at them, go and read studies on both sides. Talk to people calmly. Ask questions. Open your mind to different possibilities, Different perspectives. Do lots of research. Don't blindly follow fear that is being so readily propagated. And discuss (or argue if you must) with facts, rather than barbs. As soon as "nasty" comes into it, the other side shuts down. No one listens. No one learns. Nothing is gained. Much is lost.

*** If you are interested in some further information to get you started, I highly recommend beginning here. Thank you, Ura P Auckland, for putting into words what so many of us feel.

A few other areas where I've witnessed nasty...

In a way not dissimilar to "The V Word...", I also know lots of people with varied opinions about the Paleo style of eating and similar. The personal attacks towards those who share information about there personal preference astounds me. As we are often taught, if you can't say anything nice perhaps you shouldn't say anything at all. Not to say that you can't have your say, but perhaps think before you speak / type, play nice and try to consider that there are two sides to every discussion. 

Whether you believe in capital punishment or not, people are people. They are sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, perhaps parents. When you argue for or against, or comment on people facing death in this manner, try to remember for a fleeting moment that everyone makes mistakes and perhaps they or their loved ones deserve a moment of compassion, rather than nasty.

Please don't get me started on the way people discuss refugees.

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